Should You Include A Ring Bearer and/or Flower Girl?

My experiences in photography, speaking only as an observer, a #flowergirl or #ringbearer adds a degree of cuteness to any wedding. However, I have also observed challenges with some adorable children in certain cases. #weddingplans #imgettingmarried #imengaged #kidsinweddings

Here is a list of things to consider:

  1. Consider the age of the child at the time of your wedding. Usually if they are 3 or older I have found most children are excited and can follow instructions better then if they were younger. There is always exceptions to the rules.
  2. Consider the temperament of the child.  For instance there are some children who throw fits all the time at age 3-5 and then suddenly stop at age 6 while some stop at age 2. Just remember all children have their days, like we adults, of waking up on the wrong side of bed.
  3. Prepare yourself for a child to not cooperate when needed, like not going down the aisle when prompted or crying during the photos. If you are laid back about this it will help tremendously! Example: When I got married my flower girl, my niece, @Kristen Lemieux and the ring bearer, my nephew @Jacob Lemieux , were so adorable. Kristen marched down the aisle like a pro but she was around 5 or 6 years old. Jacob was only 2 or 3 years old and was shy. He went down the aisle, super fast, and ran to his mother (who was one of the bridesmaids). Then he spied his father in the audience and ran to him. We all laughed and went on with no problem. We still talk about that today. Good memories.

If there is time for the child to relax and take a nap or just play with some toys, (down time) the child might not get upset as easily. Think from their perspective, they only have so much energy and they will get pulled on, almost as much as, the the bride and groom. Give them space to play, (time to decompress) and treats to eat. But don’t get too upset if they have a meltdown. It is not the end of the world.

@Emily Downs @Emily Curtsinger @Nathan Downs @Lara Coomer @Fasig-Tipton #Lexingtonweddings #Bardstown #Louisvilleweddings


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